It's been a while since I've posted to my blog and the weeks just seem to whizz by these days. Garry says that it's a result of being a stepparent, as so much time is devoted to the kids and before you know it, another month goes by.
I'm all settled in now and have unpacked the majority of my things. Garry, myself and the kids have a pretty good routine sorted out. The school runs are not as stressful as they were at the start of term and the kids are starting to help out with keeping the place clean and tidy. I made up a pocket money chart as a bit of an added incentive, and also to teach money skills. The kids love it as they're rewarded for their efforts and it's a bit of healthy competition between them too. I love it because it means everyone is contributing to making the house a home.
Alastair started tennis lessons and Evie started ballet lessons a few weeks ago and both of them are absolutely loving it. Emma is pretty busy with Little Athletics stuff at the moment which she does with her Mum on the weekends. It's good that they're all out being active and doing stuff they enjoy.
We also adopted another little puppy dog a month ago, who we named Pacey (after my favourite TV character of all time). He's a spirited little thing. Loves to bite feet and hands, which try as we may, we can't get him to stop. Maybe the obedience training he's attending this afternoon will help that. We have taught him to sit and to stay, and to wait for the command to eat his dinner. Kind of... he's still on a lead when we do it but he's getting there. Charlie is still asserting his dominance and sometimes gets fed up with Pacey's energy, but in the last two weeks they've had quite a few instances where they've played nicely together. I think when Pacey settles down a bit they'll be great friends!
Garry and I had a wonderful weekend last weekend. I blocked out both days so nothing would be booked. We slept in, went for breakfast, cooked dinner together, listened to records and just enjoyed each other's company. Sometimes with life being so busy, you forget that it's the simple pleasures that you miss so much. After that weekend we decided that at least once a month we're booking out a weekend to recharge the batteries.
Today is the first day that I commence official stepmother duties, and I am as sick as a dog with the flu. Not the best start as all I feel like doing is being in bed. At the moment the kids are swimming in the pool. A bit of sunshine will probably do me good.
We sat the kids down on Saturday morning and told them that their Grandparents wouldn't be moving in as planned and we would instead be living as our own little family. I wasn't sure how they would take it, but they were all really excited about it and about me moving in. They've also recently been asking us both when we are going to get married. I said "do you want us to" and they said "yes". I said "you'll be stuck with me forever" and they said "we want that". It's really lovely how easily and smoothly we've transitioned into being a stepfamily. I was really nervous about it, but I had nothing to worry about. Garry is obviously still the most amazing partner in the world. Not sure how I got so lucky to have him in my life but I am glad I do.
On Saturday night I went to what I thought was a barbecue but was actually a surprise party organised by my amazing friend Jo. It was called International Marnie Day to thank me for being such a good friend. I don't think I've been a better friend than anyone else but it was incredibly touching and a fantastic night spent with good friends. Jo is such a thoughtful and caring person. She has so much of her own stuff going on and she still took the time to organise something to make me feel special. She deserves her own day, or even week! When I left the party I noticed a message from my friend Niamh who told me to go and look in her wardrobe at home. She had left me a heartfelt card and a big bunch of flowers. I am so blessed to have such special friends.
Despite feeling like death right now, I am still the happiest girl in the world and so thankful for my blessings in life. The future looks bright!
So these past few months have been very challenging. I have been cleaning and fixing up my house for sale, slowly healing from my break up with Dean and dealing with one of my family members being quite ill. My Manager insisted that I take some leave to process things and it was just what I needed. My friends have been invaluable during this time. I am so lucky. I have been going out almost every single night of the week. It's really helped me heal and regain my mojo.
A friend from work gave me a month trial on eHarmony, and although when I joined up I didn't feel ready to move on, I thought it couldn't hurt to give it a go. Well, I went through the question process with five guys and one survived. The first thing that struck me about him was his smile. The second and third things were his intelligence and sense of humour. He asked if I would meet him, which we did Thursday before last. He met me at the Breakwater Tavern. The date went really well but the only hitch was that he doesn't have a car (as he is an avid cyclist) and lives 30 minutes away. I said I didn't think it was going to work out logistically and he said he'd buy a car in the next couple of months (that's a condensed version of events). Since then we've been emailing back and forth almost every day. We have a lot in common and a similar sense of humour. He said he is taking me out on a surprise date on Wednesday evening, that will leave us both 'enlightened'. I'm intrigued. I don't want to get my hopes up, but I have a good feeling about things. To be honest, despite all attempts, I am finding it almost impossible to concentrate on anything. Just have to continue to try and keep myself grounded. He is so funny though. I really think this could be something special. We'll see... Wish me luck!
The overriding statement I am trying to make in this post is that I have wonderful, supportive friends and I am content with the direction my life is moving in at the moment. Even if things don't work out in my love life. Things are going pretty well. :)
When guessing: NO Google, NO searching IMDB yourself, or any of that sneaky internet stuff that we're all so good at. Just you and your memory!
1. All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
2. Well "Sinead O'Rebellion." Shock me shock me shock me with that deviant behavior.
3. The game starts now. You have to score one thousand points. If you do that, you take home a tank with a big gun. Each day we will announce the scores from that loudspeaker. The one who has the fewest points will have to wear a sign that says "Jackass" on his back. There are three ways to lose points. One, turning into a big crybaby. Two, telling us you want to see your mommy. Three, saying you're hungry and want something to eat.
4. One! Don't you feel dumb. Two! Look at you. Three! Don't you ever make jokes about me behind my back or else I'll stomp you into the ground.
5. Uh, no. Sorry, but a toll is a toll, and a roll is a roll, and if we don't get no tolls, then we don't eat no rolls.
6. Jimmy want a rib! Jimmy want a steak! Jimmy want piece of yo chocolate cake!
7. Too bad, she said she doesn't want you here when she gets back because you've been ruining everybody's lives and eating all our steak.
8. Person 1: There was a moment... when I used to blame everything and everyone... for all the pain and suffering and vile things that happened to me, that I saw happen to my people. Used to blame everybody. Blamed white people, blamed society, blamed God. I didn't get no answers 'cause I was asking the wrong questions. You have to ask the right questions. Person 2: Like what? Person 1: Has anything you've done made your life better?
9. My impression of life at Big Bri's house, "Son?" "Yeah, Dad?" "How was your day, son?" "Great, Dad. How's yours?" "Super. Say, how would like to go fishing this weekend?" "Great, Dad. But I got homework to do." "That's okay, son. You can do it on the boat." "Gee." "Hon, isn't our son swell?" "Yes, dear. Isn't life swell?"
10. Forty years I been asking permission to piss. I can't squeeze a drop without say-so.
11. Did you ever see that "Twilight Zone" where the guy signed a contract and they cut out his tongue and put it in a jar and it wouldn't die, it just grew and pulsated and gave birth to baby tongues? Pretty cool, huh?
12. Match in the gas tank, *boom* *boom*!
13. Your a fake and a phony and I wish I never laid eyes on you.
14.Wait, you don't understand. If you don't play there's no music. If there's no music they don't dance. If they don't dance they don't kiss and fall in love and I'm history
15. Father: The mill's closed. There's no more work. We're destitute. Children: Ohhhhh. Father: I'm afraid I have no choice but to sell you all for scientific experiments.
I got up at 7am which is a massive sleep in for me. Michael's work are taking their employees to Rottnest Island for their Christmas Party so I am dropping Michael off at Hillarys at 9am and then going into work. I have been working 10 - 12 hour days all week and so today I only have to work 1.75 hours to make up my hours for the week. Of course I am going to end up doing more than that because I have two reports to enter into the system before I leave but I won't let that upset me.
As is tradition with me I am having my hair done for the Christmas Party tonight, and I'm also having my make-up done by my friend Abbey (for free) who works at Yves Saint Laurent in Myer. I bought a really pretty maxi dress from Target last night as well. I am planning on drinking lots of free alcohol at the work party and then and I shall be hitting the town for some dancing and shenanigans with my work buddies.
I've said it before but I will say it again, the people I work with are the best. Because of the industry we work in they're caring, patient and have a really good sense of humour. I spend a lot of time laughing my ass off when I'm in the office. I am really looking forward to partying with them tonight.
One more day of work and then 2 weeks of relaxation... FINALLY!
So we have the internet back and I can write on LJ once again - yay!
The study around me is still full of boxes and generally a shambles but most of the house is liveable. There's lots of things I want to change in the near future but I love this house. My friend Alana (from work) said that when I found my future house I would know it and she was right. It feels as though this was meant to be our house. From morning until night you can hear trains passing, it reminds me of when I lived next to Glendalough station. Luckily our bedroom is in the middle of the house and the trains don't disturb our sleep.
This morning I went shopping early to finish off my Christmas shopping. I decided to buy myself a Christmas present because I fell in love with the Christina Aguilera fragrance. No one else is going to buy it for me so why not I say! Then I went home and gave the house a good clean.
Tonight Jo and Steven came over for a barbeque dinner followed by Singstar and Buzz. It was a very enjoyable and relaxing night and just what I needed. Jo beat me at Singstar AND Buzz. Jo is hereby banned from playing Playstation with me ;)
Tomorrow more house cleaning and general house organisation before I have the pleasure of looking after Aaron's little girl Isabella for the night. I had so much fun last time with my pretend daughter, she is adorable so I am looking forward to it. 10 days until Christmas, bring on the break!